There's nothing such as half in a relationship, you're either fully invested or you're totally out of it. No matter what kind of a relationship it is, it is the extremes that matter, half in - half out are serious threats to a successful relationship.
We, humans, are bound by threads of relationship, which dramatize, our story called life. The threads which we are allowed to hold at our discretion are the threads of friendship. This is the only relationship chosen, and the only relationship not bound to us.
We may or may not agree, we are social beings and cannot avoid interaction at any cost. Even if we do, it would, at some point in time be inevitable.
Friendship is something, which we do not burden ourselves with, and a genuine friend is someone, whose friendship does not revolve around the idea of hope and expectations. It is a genuine friend, who would call out your wrongdoings and would open arms wide, to have you fall back on. It is friendship that creates the idea of a safe space with people unknown. It is that genuine comfort, we seek in strangers, who start mattering and affecting us. This is the brewing behind a successful friendship.
You would hardly find these genuine people, but sometimes you may find them, and situations may not work out in your favor and what could have been a bond gets battered. You might feel alone with a wide variety of people, but being alone is better than being with the wrong company.
This wrong company is the company of half friends, someone who uses you for their comfort, someone who uses you for their comfort but is gone when the tables turn. It is wrong to expect something out of people, but that soul inside us is bound to develop hopes and it is these people who shatter every bit of it. The experience of some with such people, definitely ingrains them, trust issues and self-doubt, and identity crises are bound to follow.
When people use you and aren't there for you, you certainly feel, that you aren't enough. It might be true, you might not be enough, for them, but there's certainly someone, who would make you feel worthy 'enough'. Half friends, though half, have dangers which are full, full to bust your belief ingenuity and healthy relationships. To disconnect from such people is the best way out. Cutting out toxicity from your life, may make a vacuum in your life, but trust me, it is a favor, you've done to your mental health.
People who leave you midway have no right to deserve your trust and your unconditional support to them. Friendship is based on the grounds of support, and being there whenever, wherever. There might not be a forever in friendship, but at least, the part, that you're together, should be when you're equally invested. Two halves might not always make a whole, and two pieces of a puzzle are not always meant to fit into each other. If the bond were true, the attachment wouldn't have been forceful and suffocating. A real friendship is effortless, where two halves might not even be making a whole but wholesome to each other, cheering the other half, so that they can round up to be full.
Half friends enter and leave in their comfort and they are nothing more than acquaintances to you. Friendship is a heavy term to use and the holiness of which, should not be wronged with such people. Someone who leaves you when you needed them the most, wouldn't have stayed, had it not been for their benefit. They might have left earlier, but better late than never as a vacuum is better than a clutter of dirt, which might have led to a dearth of peace.
To be with someone who doesn't value your space, opinion, sanctity, and happiness shouldn't make you feel below par, with anyone. It isn't always that things might work, but being with someone making you feel like a half-empty glass, is an actual blunder. Friendship is meant to make that half glass full, by pouring the goodness they have. If efforts in friendship are halved, then certainly, the results would be much closer to zero. If that feeling of being alone is that fear, which makes you rebound to this half company, make yourself believe, that you are your friend. Be selfish, and cut off from them before it's too late, but friendships aren't meant to burden you, they are to make you feel wanted and precious, even when you're not a gem!
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