We put in countless hours, work tirelessly, stay on our best behavior, and do several things to form connections with people. Though these are no ordinary people, these special individuals are the ones who have passed all our metrics, and parameters and consequently share the same values we hold in high regard. All the efforts we put in to make acquaintances are worth it right? Otherwise, we would be all alone with no one to support and help us. This makes it even more important to practice deep care and caution when it comes to the people we value. We never know how close we are to losing our loved ones.
It looks like we need to put the proverbial fragile sticker on these relationships to remind us how careful and mindful we need to be when dealing with them. Especially in moments of despair and anger. When we experience any of the heightened emotions be it sorrow, pain, anger, or resentment we develop a sort of tunnel view and look through the situations in a very narrow and unforgiving manner. Even the smallest indiscretion may seem like a betrayal in our minds. In times like these, it is advisable to follow some kind of momentary absence and come back to any important decision we may have after substantial time has passed and return when you can see the concern in a sober and level–headed manner. Restraint in these situations can prevent you from a lot of suffering later. Giving yourself and others space and freedom is of the utmost importance to let the relationship grow and prosper. A bit of distance would aid in setting up the foundation for the relationship to grow. Other essential elements of a sound relationship can only be observed by putting trust and patience in your loved ones and communicating with them clearly and transparently.
The underlying reason why a person is important to us can especially empower us, in times of uncertainty and help us in troubling times: to see the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. Relationships are built after years and years of mutual respect and trust between individuals but they can end in moments or even seconds. Too much attachment with your loved ones breeds dependence and clinginess which is undesirable but on the other side of the coin – too much distance between the two may lead to feelings of abandonment and isolation thereby eroding the layers of the connection so arduously built. One needs to strike a balance to produce a truly conducive environment that would lead to independent and mutual growth between their loved ones and them.
-Parth Nigam
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